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Saturday, March 03, 2007

Mix and Match - no co-ordination

Well they don't do they! Or at least mine don't. My autistic children keep everything separate, Pokemon in one box, trains in another, Dinosaurs in an old and forgotten one. Their 'play skills' improve with practice, prompting and encouragement, but the idea of giving a Pokemon a ride on a train, or permitting the trains house room in the Pokemon box, is basically a non starter. Even the idea of such a bold step would evoke mass hysteria and panic. Would it be possible to make a 'house' out of Lego for the Pokemon or maybe the trains? Of course not, such cross contamination would be unthinkable! Order must be maintained at all costs. It would constitute a severe blunder on my part to try and jinx the status quo.

I wouldn't mind so much if this was but a thinly disguised 'tidiness' gene. I could also tolerate a little more of the OCD tendencies in this respect, but that's not really the issue here.

In many situations they are incapable of differentiation. They seem 'blind' to the differences or unable to pin point something specific. A cupboard full of food, but they can't 'see' the cereal shelf, the nearest one. Or a barren empty room, with one obvious item of a contrasting colour in the middle of the carpet, but to them it is invisible. But when it comes to toy category contamination, they're as sharp as tacks.

Do I permit this happy state of affairs to continue? Of course not. I take every [many] opportunity to invade their space with a foreign object; a wind-up toy amongst the bricks, a kaleidoscope sneaks into the crayon box, a 'soft' Pokemon mingled in with the 'hard' ones. Do they tolerate the the introduction of such an anomoly? No, they treat it like a virus.

But if you persist, the steady drip, drip, drip, [translation = nag, nag, nag] may eventually take root. For mine I suspect that although part of it is smudging the boundaries of their rigid categories, it is also familiarity as they gradually learn to tolerate a less than perfect world - and we all need a bit of that.

Beauty tip of the day - biproduct of product

"Good shower?" he asks as I appear in the kitchen.
"Er yes, I think." I rub my head with a towel and watch junior roll around on the hard wood floor, one index finger inserted in each nostril.
"What's up?"
"Not sure, there's something wrong with my hair. But he's doing well! Can you see he how brave his fingers are being? Wouldn't have seen that a couple of years ago."
"Hmm, I suppose so." His hand brushes my arm, "how come you're so sticky?"
"Er, not sure."
"Is that some kind of new 'wet look' hair gel?" I pull a strand or two of limp hair out of my eyes, "just conditioner," I haver.
"Where are your glasses?"
"Can't find them. Is he o.k. he's making a very strange noise?"
"He was alright until you appeared."
"Really?" I hunker down to try and decrease the tempo of his rocking so that we can attempt communication. The retching noises are difficult to miss.
"What is it dear?" I rub the shoulder that offers easy access and wait. A couple of minutes later, he recovers enough to escape, commonly referred to as the 'fight or flight' response, but he's kind enough to clarify as he departs, "you are the stinkiest!" I look at my life partner hoping for further and better particulars;
"It does pong a bit,.......but I like it really!" I nip back upstairs to check, as I suddenly have an inkling. [translation = clue]

On the counter I find two identical tubes of gloop. One is hair gloop, the other is body gloop, neither is perfume free. Moral - wear your bifocals before selecting a product to avoid suffocation.

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