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Tuesday, December 26, 2006

Holiday Survival



OED Online Word of the Day
survival SECOND EDITION 1989
1. a. The continuing to live after some event (spec. of the soul after death); remaining alive, living on.

I am told that goldfish, the golden orange pet kind, have short memories. One circuit of the bowl and the ‘seascape’ is all new again.
One thing about holidays if you have autistic children, is that it is no holiday for the parents. If the parents permit the days to become holidays, either for their own benefit or that of their children, you can pretty quickly find that they regress a few months.

It is during dinner of spaghetti, meat balls, Marina sauce with a sprinkling of Parmesan that I remember, that in theory Junior ‘eats’ pasta. I look at him troughing down a bowlful of Goldfish. How could I have forgotten that he mastered grains of rice and blobs of pasta some months back? How can they have already slipped out of his repetoire when they were only there a few weeks ago? Seven months to acquire two new foods and a blink of an eye to lose them again.

The following day I determine to reintroduce pasta. At lunch I present him with three pasta shapes, tiny goldfish shapes at room temperature. Spouse follows the screamer as he hurtles upstairs at full volume, “no, no, no, no new food, it is dah holidays, no new food.” I can hear spouse trying to mollify him, remind him that ‘pasta’ is not a new food but an old one, but he’ll have none of it.
We go back to first principals. [Ref 1] Firstly, he has to look at the item of food. This means that his eyes have to be open, not screwed up. The ceiling doesn’t count, nor two inches to the left of the bowl that holds the food. Once your eyes at least glance at the food, you have to describe it in detail. ‘Yucky’ is not sufficiently descriptive, even if you have a speech delay.

The new food, is presented five times a day, at three meal times and two snacks. It doesn’t have to be eaten, it just has to stay on the plate. [translation = exposure] Hurling it, with or without the plate, across the room, doesn’t count.
We move swiftly on to stage two – sniff the food. Blowing your nose in the food’s general direction doesn’t count.


Next we touch the food, with a less preferred [translation = less sensitive finger tip] finger. Elbows are banned as they generally have insufficient nerve endings to have any impact on the sensory system. It is o.k. to wipe the contaminated finger tip on as many paper napkins and serviettes as may prove necessary. Washing your entire body, is off limits. As a precautionary measure, clothes are compulsory.
Next we attempt licking. This is usually a louder stage of the treatment. Ear plugs may be worn. Wash cloths for the cleansing of the tongue, should have been prepared in advance. So far, so good. We move into the final phase. The new food must go into the mouth whilst an adult counts to five. [slowly] In an ideal world the ‘eater’ should attempt to move the food item around in the mouth, although masticating is optional. An open mouth with a protruding tongue doesn’t count. On the count of five, the spit bowl is ready for expulsion.

Fortunately this 27 minute operation only need be repeated two further times. Luckily, junior prefers his food at room temperature.
Moral – use your foods or you’ll lose them.
[ref 1] Just Take a Bite – apologies to Lori Emsberger Ph.D the writer

5 comments:

kristina said...

Funny (?) but I just posted on holidays and food routines being affected with (screaming) results----fast food, prepared food, food dispensed in perfectly cut and patterned shapes does seem the preference.

Mom said...

Charlie has eaten nothing but pizza for two weeks. And you're right, the holidays aren't holidays, they are more like boot camp for these little ones with autism.

Did you see these christmas carols for people with kids who have special needs?

http://specialchildren.about.com/od/needalaugh/ss/specialcarols.htm

Jerry Grasso said...

We don't have quite the issues with Demetrius, but we are trying to get back on the wagon and have him do some schoolwork. He actually was off a week earlier because he was sick...so he'll get three and a half weeks off before he goes back to school. The work, the work....

AshleyLeo said...

You are such a patient, terrific mom! Not an easy thing, food. If only every mom could be as respectful about SI stuff, and has a good plan to boot.

Thanks for the reminder about routine - we've been slacking on food and supplements, although I did remember to get the kids up and "ready" for the day by the time the bus usually comes.

purple_kangaroo said...

Wow, that sounds like a great approach. It must be frustrating to have to start all over again on a food you thought you had accomplished introducing.

 
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