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Sunday, March 25, 2007

A warning to world’s women

Beware! Mother’s Day is coming. [already gone, in Europe where Mothering Sunday is linked to the liturgical calendar]

Kindly women warn their significant others that the day approaches. Martyrs, prefer to remain silent and moan a lot, quietly with breathy sighs. Now you may be the parent of an autistic child, a mother or father perhaps? If you are, you may feel that such warnings have no relevance for you. Whilst you may well be correct and I certainly felt that I was a member of that contingent, last year, I found myself in the relevant group unexpectedly. In fact it is because Mother's Day is still 7 weeks away, the second Sunday in May, that forewarned is fore armed. Some people with fine motor challenges and other complications, need far longer to get their act together.

Last year, I was aware that many of the words I used failed to penetrate. I also failed to appreciate that many of the words that I thought were merely afloat in the ether, had penetrated. The trouble is that you can’t pick and choose which ones lodge and take root.

When your significant other is reminded that ‘the day’ is approaching, he may start to consider what, if anything, might be an appropriate gift or treat for you, the mother of his children. He might, if truly desperate, and most of them are, consult the offspring. For some reason, most autistic children appear to communicate far more effectively with one parent rather than the other. The one parent, often appears to be their father.

The father can extract information from an autistic child that completely escapes the mother, though why this should true, requires further research. But we warned, your children, autistic or otherwise, will recall the most remote and obscure words that you have uttered during their period of life on this earth to date, to delight and bewilder you.

Ergo, when the great day arrives, you need to scour your memory bank, mine for details and have instant accurate recall . That way when you are presented with home made picture of a rainbow, a home made rag for the purpose of cleaning your glasses and a flower picked from your very own garden, then you will know that you are a very lucky woman indeed.


kristina said...

Lucky enough to see those three mugs [as in mugshot, courtesy of my Irish mafia book writing husband] every day.

Karianna said...


Alas, I am one of those pesky maryrs: especially one year when I received a husband telling me that I could do the dishes the next day instead of right that moment. Wow, how generous! ;-)

Anonymous said...

That was wonderful.
I am for sure the "kindly" woman as you put it...I drill it into my husbands brain at least a month in advance...otherwise, I'll be ignored...My kid's only 3 so she can't remind him yet...I can't wait for the day I can hint to her to talk to her dad!!!

Thanks for visiting me...I loved having you!

AshleyLeo said...

Thanks for the warning! I used to have such negative associations with mother's day, since, my mother is probably right now drunk somewhere in Florida in an undisclosed trailer park.

Mother's Day used to remind of those "happy" times, but now I have something to look forward to. And I don't even really think of my natural mother anymore. I think of all of us ASD moms, a special wonderful breed!

Indeed, I am a very lucky person to have two amazing children. My husband? I hope to help him through his expectations, whatever they may be.

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