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Sunday, June 10, 2007

A Blight on my life

Of course there are several, but we’ll start with an important one, namely shoes. All shoes should be comfortable, that should be part of the definition of a shoe. If a shoe fails to be comfortable it instantaneously transforms itself into another category entirely, namely a means of torture. Additionally, the ideal shoe should be red, in fact I think it should be compulsory that all shoes are red. I would sacrifice, that is to say ‘trade,’ red for comfortable. [translation = beware of women in comfortable shoes]

I expect it would surprise you to learn that my first ever pair of shoes were red? [translation = the newly hatched duckling fixates on the first visible object] I of course, am in a position of power, since I have the purse, which contains the means to acquire the shoes. [translation = greenbacks] I wield my consumer power, for my children and their footwear too, or I would do, if anyone would honour me with the chance to put shoe leather close to the soles of their feet. [translation = or it’s synthetic equivalents]

Feet have many different qualities, few of which are truly appreciated. Until this current crop of children, I was unaware that feet have rights. [translation = we are in America afterall] Around these parts, feet have the right to be unfettered and free to pursue happiness. As with all things American, the feet have to learn that with rights, come responsibilities. The feet have the responsibility to be protected from themselves and the many textures of the world that are out to get them. [translation = do them damage]

As with most things in life, it’s a trade off. The trouble with the trade off, is that no-one can decide how much to trade. [translation = the barter system]

Essentially the whole matter is a dichotomy without resolve – my feet must be free, my feet need armour. How does one resolve such internal conflict?
That’s right! Very noisily.

Now that my children have advanced up the fine motor skills learning curve, to be able to deal with the vexatious issue of Velcro [translation = tactile defensiveness and noise abatement society, due to ripping sounds] they are able to put their own shoes on by themselves. Hallelujah! [translation = with prompting] Thank goodness for the end of the sock season.

It is a rare sight to witness a person in the midst of this quandary. [translation = is it?] The shoes are on. The shoes fly across the room. They are retrieved and screamed at, given a few slaps to teach them a lesson, then they’re on again, and then they’re in orbit. It would, of course, be very unkind to laugh at such a person. [translation = I recommend duct tape] If two people are in the middle of the same quandary, at the same time, it is probably better to leave the room and compose yourself.

On your return, it would be a good idea to remind your children of the many things that you have said many times before. Commiserate with your children. [translation = validate their dilemma] Concur with the willful conspiracy of shoes. Use all the tried, trusted and familiar phrases that you have been using for as many years as you have been using them.

Ideally, modeling the correct behaviour can be very effective. You probably realize that you are in a groove and might wish to add a dash of something new. [translation= take care, this doesn’t work if you do it too often] Modeling or copying, as best you can, their behaviour, can sometimes be more effective still. [translation = take care, you don’t want to come across as mocking or taunting them, timing is crucial]

Obtain your own shoes from the garage and join in the shoe fest. Berate your shoes before your children. For some reason, biting your shoes has a particularly positive effect. Worry your shoes and shout at them a lot. Cast them aside, being sure not to knock out any small people with your bad aim. [translation = and boat sized shoes]

If you’re lucky, someone, maybe two people will each bring you a shoe and help you. When you hear little voices parrot back your own words, take care to swallow hard.

If you're looking for some helpful advice on some of the many different therapies available for someone you know, here are a few from my good "pal," because we are all trolling through a similar learning curve.


Anonymous said...

how are your kids with flip-flops? [translation: zoris, chancletas, changlas; you *are* in Texas, right?!]

my husband hates shoes like i hate bras (of course being [translation: pretending to be] responsable adults, we each use those items anyway)... and he has taken to using flip-flops a lot. apparently they touch less parts of your feet?! i tried them (after thinking i hated them for years, but maybe those were the inferior kind before they made 7 zillion different styles of them) and found he was right.

Bea said...

Those toddler shoes - the ones at the very top? How I want them.

Pickel said...

Those toddler shoes would be Mary Janes and one can find them in adult sizes. they are quite "in" right now.

I also hate flip flops because I can't stand the flippy thing between my toes. I had to wear them for a wedding this past fall and had to get over my phobia. I much prefer crocs.

kristina said...

I just saw a pair of formal black shoes we got for Charlie to wear to his great aunt's (3rd) wedding when he was 4---things for dolls, I thought.

I am in the midst of online shoe shopping as I type----I am in need of something other for the summer than the flipflops my mom gave Charlie (they fit me more than him---he's a Merrell shoe kind of guy). [i.e., no velcro, no shoe strings---slip ons, like his dad]

Melissa said...

Shoes... they are a huge issue here... every time we get a new pair we have to spend hours running with Little Bug. He is screaming and crying, but eventually, he gets used to them. Then we do it all over again when the next new pair of shoes shows up :S

Anonymous said...

Absolutely delightful. I love your wit. I was absolutely transfixed by the wheel of shoes picture in there. I like to avoid wearing shoes a lot, but they are pretty necessary for going outside.

madhu said...

Interesting article
My kid used to hate shoes initially.

If we force him to wear for occasions, then he will start crying.

So I slowly introduced him very colorful shoes like "Nike Little Flight Ball (TD)", which I ordered it from shoedeals4u.com Once he wears it, I made my relatives and family members to appreciate him. That was also a heard task. But he some how
got convinced and now he wearing it happily.

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