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Tuesday, July 17, 2007

Insatiable curiosity

Nonna is visiting for the summer. She is a little hard of hearing but has the debatable benefit of hearing aides. [translation = where are they?] She attempts washing up amid many gallons of water and a non functioning tap, [translation = faucet] whilst I make lunch for the masses.

“When will it be fixed?” she asks at the fountain streams and floods the kitchen counters and floor.
“Two weeks for the parts to come and heaven knows when we can ever find a plumber,” I bellow. [translation = or afford one]
“Is it original?”
“Did it come with the house or is it new?”
“I have no idea.”

I mop the floor with old towels as the boys attempt to skate. [translation = fall over, bump themselves, get very wet and have meltdowns for all three reasons]

“Why it is?”
“Why is what dear?”
“Why it is wet?”
I point to the broken tap.
“No!” he screeches with annoyance, “no, why is dah water wet?”
“Water is always wet, that’s what water is, wet!” I am annoyed at my inadequate explanation of something so straight forward. I am annoyed that the other one has run away to hide with a catering sized jar of peanut butter. [translation = in America these jars are the same size as a small person's head] I hunt him down, leaving the other two questioners to their own devices.

“Come along now, you know that’s not good for you. If you eat too much you’ll be sick.”
“Why I am sick?”
“No, you’re not sick.... yet, but you will be if you eat too much of that, it’s too rich.”
“Rich? You mean expensive?”
Pardon me! I didn’t know he even knew that word and such a perfect delivery!
“Er, no, not expensive, too…….too……fatty.”
“Fatty! Fatty? Is not being fatty it is……er……..a solid liquid. See?” He extracts a finger from the jar with a slick of peanut butter. I hear Nonna squeak in response to the cascading tap and scurry back into the kitchen clutching the jar of peanut butter to my chest.

“When’s lunch gonna be ready mum?” my daughter asks quite reasonably as I reach across the sink.
“At this rate we’ll be lucky if we’re ready by dinner time!” I mutter under my breath. [translation = evening meal time] Instead I offer something more optimistic, in the hope of stemming the tide of enquiries, if not the fountain of water, “just give me five minutes dear.”

“How many seconds are der being in dah five minutes?”
“300!” I snap as I set the visual timer.

“Is it new that?” asks Nonna, flapping a hand in the direction of the timer. I think of all the timers that we have in the household but I have no idea in what order we bought them nor how old this particular timer is. “I have no idea. Newish I think.”
“You had it last year when I was here?” she continues. I think. We’ve had the visual one forever.
“Yes.” I am confident that is the correct and truthful answer.
“I don’t remember it,” she murmours. I am uncertain how or if, to respond in view of the number of hours I spend looking for the many accessories that she possesses, but is unable to find.

She stacks the last cup on the side of the sink in a precarious position. “What about this one then?”
“What one?”
“This thing here…….the dishwasher. Is it new, or did it come with the house?” I take a deep breath. I cannot quite work out why I am so irrationally annoyed with this innocent question? I am tempted to run round the house and take an inventory of every item to date stamp each one. [translation = post date] I exhale as the next round of questions come flowing from a couple of speech delayed people.

“When I am gone?”
“Pardon? Do you mean ‘where have you been’?”
“Er, no I .....'mean?'....., er……..what it is ‘been’? Bean? Bean! Mean and bean rhyme! I do not like bean.....er ....beans.”

I feel that I have lost the thread of every conversation.

“You think this is a new one?” asks Nonna waving the sodden towel at me.
“No, definitely old, almost a rag, only used for mopping up.” At last I have identified an accurate fact.
“It looks like brand new to me!” she baulks.

“Yes dear.” I try and suppress the ‘what is it now’ tone in my voice.
“Do you think that Hermit crabs can smell?”
“Yes. They definitely have an enhanced sense of smell, so that they can find their food and sense enemies approaching.” At last I have identified an accurate fact.
“No. I mean can they smell. They smell bad. Do you think one’s "died?”

“What it is?” shouts the next one at full volume.
“What is what dear?”
“It is dah midnight blue or dah indigo?” I grit my teeth and look around for anything, anything at all, that could remotely be described as blue. I can see nothing within my immediate vicinity. [translation = or his] “Can you point to it dear?” He takes his hand out of his pocket, uncurls his fingers and reveals a tiny piece of lego.
“Mid blue” I pronounce.
“No, just mid.”
“Can I be putting dah little ‘l’ and dah little ‘e’ after dah mid?”

I have the urge to go and dead head the roses, or shred a head of lettuce with the sharpest knife in the drawer or cut the grass with a pair of nail scissors. I decide that my brain has died and that I too, have completely run out of words. [translation = or at least any useful ones]


Joeymom said...

I recommed the lawn with the nail scissors. Very therapeutic. ;)

Bev said...

A solid liquid indeed. Does "been" sound like "bean" at your house? Is that new? Or is it blue? Do you youtube? Because, really, I'd love to see this episode.

Maddy said...

Not of this particular incident but U-tube's just under the fishy.

Anonymous said...

"I am slowly going crazy....."

Did you find a corner to hide in and 30 secs to yourself???

Just think... you've made the "Why??" stage... Personally I'm hoping it ends soon in our house.... :)


Jeni said...

We're not in the "why" phase here - thankfully. It's difficult enough at times when anything said to the Princess gets the response of "ok, ok. All done. All done." (especially when the request has some reference to use of the potty chair. Apparently she has some massive aversion to doing anything that could be construed as helpful to the rest of the family with respect to the potty chair. Ah, to dream, huh?)
Now, the 20 questions (and then some) routine with Noona - I dunno what to tell you there- maybe earplugs?

mjsuperfan said...

It's not fair that you are getting it from two generations. Maybe you can get them to talk to each other and leave you out of it!
Not very likely, I know.

Niksmom said...

I like Mom to HBG and Joeymom's suggestions. How about if you uge earpolugs while you cut the lawn? That ought to buy you some quiet time, right? I must tellyou, I cringed every time your mother started with another question...reminds me of mine! LOL

Heidi said...

I second cutting the lawn with nail scissors. Or hiding in a cupboard. Or pretending you are deaf. Both my boys are in the pre-verbal stage and torture me with groaning and screaming. I don't know which is worse.

Every time my mum comes to visit she does an inventory of everything that has been purchased since her last visit. It drives me crazy.

Anonymous said...

Haha, just finished the post when I saw out of the corner of my eye my autistic son run off with a jar a peanutbutter. Greatminds thin a like I guess.

joker the lurcher said...

oh, love this! i only have one of them but i still get the overwhelming feeling that you are the one going mad... and as for grandparents. there is something in the theory that autism runs in families - my husband's family are all incredibly aspie, especially his mother, who collects huge numbers of calendars and pads for making lists and little pencils...

joker the lurcher said...

sorry - just read what i wrote and what i meant was that 'one is going mad' rather than 'you' as in you, but i am rather slapdash with my grammar, or possibly my syntax...

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